Article by Valencia Ray MD
It takes self-esteem and confidence to boldly move forward with new goals and plans. It is easy to talk about it and every New Year brings a sense of new possibilities and with it excitement.
In order to get a different result, however, we have to think, feel and act differently than what we have been thinking, feeling and acting. If you keep doing the same old thing, you will keep getting the same old results.
I find that most people are unaware of the powerful role of self-esteem in determining the quality of their lives. Your level of self-respect, your self-concept and self-confidence determines everything from the quality of your relationships, to your health and finances. And, unfortunately, most people are not even consciously aware of all of the negative self-talk and negative media messages that intrude upon their minds every single day. If someone talked about you the way you criticize yourself, you would probably be offended or would avoid his or her company.
Yet, we typically allow the verbal abuse of negative self-talk to go on and on without censorship. The only way to stop this vicious cycle that is a major contributor to sabotaging your life is to become consciously aware of your thoughts and to understand that your level of self-esteem and confidence is simply based upon what thoughts you choose to believe about yourself. And it really is ultimately a choice.
This morning I came across an old book of mine written by an eminent psychologist who is known for his books on self-esteem. His name is Nathaniel Branden and these quotes are taken from his book ?How To Raise Your Self-Esteem?. Here are a couple of quotes from Dr. Branden; he says, ?Thus self-esteem is the key to success or failure. It is also the key to understanding ourselves and others.? ??I cannot think of a single psychological difficulty?that is not traceable to poor self-esteem. Positive self-esteem is a cardinal requirement of a fulfilling life?.
From my own personal journey, I finally figured...
out several years ago that the way I love myself will be reflected in how I take care of myself and how I treat others. We all hope for world peace, yet as a whole, we do not understand how the peace we are seeking has to start within, within each one of us. You cannot love your neighbor until you love yourself. If you cannot get along with your own family members, why are we expecting nations to understand and get along together? Nations are composed of individual people, of course.This new revolution or rather evolution that we see going on in the world, in order to significantly improve our quality of life has to begin from the inside out. As Dr Brandon also said ?One of the most significant characteristics of healthy self-esteem is that it is the state of one who is not at war either with himself or with others?.
Healing our self-perception will not only build our self-confidence, it can literally heal the world. This is one reason why I am so passionate about this topic. A Happy New Year begins with setting goals to obtain a better understanding of who you really are, and thus creating a happy new YOU!
About the Author
Valencia Ray MD is a speaker, writer and coach with a focus on integrating Neuroscience with Personal Development. She was a practicing physician and eye surgeon before selling her business in order to pursue her new career full-time. Her message is filled with the inspiration and wisdom you need to rediscover your passion and create a life you love.
Website: http://www.ValenciaRay.com
Blog: http://www.TheConfidenceDoc.com
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